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Friday, 7 January 2011

My Visit to Southhamsdarling

Hello England.  I've come to visit one of my favorite bloggers in the UK.  For a while she was my only UK friend but I'm now proud to say I have a few.  What I have discovered upon my visit here is that the people are wonderful and so hospitable.

I've just arrived at the front door of my good friend Thisisme here at Southhamsdarling.  I smell something good baking in the kitchen and she has put some tea on for me I'm sure.  So come on in with me!
Can I just tell you how exciting it is to be her first guest blogger? It's an honor and since I don't have anything to compare to, the pressure isn't too bad!! 

 When Thisisme invited me to write on her blog we tossed around some ideas on what I could write about.  I told her that if she wanted to ask me a question I would be glad to answer it. 

 She gave me a couple to choose from but I will only tell you this one in case she wants to use the others for any of you future guests.

It is a great question and is very close to my heart.  If you know my blog you know my pride and joy are my two granddaughters, Kali and Destini.  So Thisisme asked me "what advice would you give to your two lovely granddaughters  to try and help them to deal with the world around them when they grow up?"

I've thought about it for a couple of days because I could probably write a book with the possibilities. 

 So I'll pick a few things that I believe would be the best 'grand-motherly" advice I could give them.  Here goes:
  • Never, ever lose your sense of humor.  You both have the sweetest laugh and giggle and I pray you always find something in life that makes you want to feel that happy no matter how old you are.
  •  Love each other with all of your hearts.  If you argue, work it out.  Don't ever make the other feel bad about herself.  You may be good at one thing and your sister may not but it also works both ways. 
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  • Tell each other "I Love You" no matter how often.
  • Please don't be afraid to speak your mind.  There is a tactful and polite way to be heard, but make sure you know that your opinion matters.
  •  Please don't ever let anyone abuse you. Not, physically, mentally or verbally.  If it ever happens, remove yourself from that persons world.  You are worthy of nothing but respect and honor. 
  • Be sure you wait until you are mature and in a loving relationship before you have children.  Break the cycle of being too young and immature to handle it like your mother and father were.  Use birth control and condoms when the time comes to discover the beauty of love and sex.  Be ready to be a great mom.
  • No matter what career you choose, be happy at what you do.  Give 100% of yourself and look at your work as a reflection of you.  Go the extra mile to help others out and share your knowledge.  It will come back to reward you.
  • Remember that even though you are 11 months apart and people look at you as twins most of the time, you are individuals.  Be original in your fashion, ideas, beliefs and don't ever make fun of the other. 
  • As soon as you get your very first job, whether it be babysitting, delivering newspapers or dog-sitting, take some of your pay and put it away first and foremost.  If you do this from the time you are young ladies, you will have a nice nest-egg. 
  • Make certain that you can support yourself and need not depend on anyone else to survive.  Have confidence in your abilities and strive to go for the extra money if the opportunity presents itself.  In other words, keep growing in your job.  Climb the ladder.
  • When you do have a family, make sure you are happy yourself first and foremost.  It shows to your loved ones.  
  • When the day comes that you have grandchildren, I hope you can then realize just how much I love you both!
This Guest Post was written by Bouncin'Barb at This and That (As I Bounce Thru' Life) http://bouncinbarbs.blogspot.com/ 

35 comments:

Gawgus things... said...

Logged on extra early today to read this! What fantastic advice, not just for your grand daughters, but the rest of us too. Thank you for sharing BB and hope you enjoyed your time in the UK!

lyndylou said...

Wow great advice, I hope you have printed this off and put it somewhere for them to read :) Welcome to the Uk BB, glad you enjoyed your stay here and I really liked your post.

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SkippyMom said...

Great advice Barb. The humor one is the key I think - all else falls into place if you can just keep your sense of humor.

Glad you had a nice time visiting. This you are a sweetheart!

Odie Langley said...

Barb you are one fine lady and wise as well. These points would be great for each of us to use as our guide to a better life and I feel better just for reading them. Thanks & congratulations on doing such a great job.
Odie

becca said...

great advice and a wonderful guest post

Becky said...

Beautiful, Barb!!! I plan to share this with my own two daughters. You are a very special grandma and those two little girls are so very blessed to have you in their lives! ~~ This... Hope you are doing well today! :)

Bouncin' Barb said...

Gawgus...Thank you for being a great supporter and friend. So appreciate it.

Lyndylou...I will do just that. Perhaps write a physical journal for them. Thank you.

Skippy...True,true, true. Thankfully they have inherited Grandma's sense of humor.

Odie...Thank you for that. What a very sweet thing to say.

Becca...Thanks for following along and being a great supported of my blog!!

Shady Del Knight said...

In today's guest appearance, Barb bestowed great wisdom upon her granddaughters. Sibling rivalry can tear a family apart, force parents and grandparents to choose sides, and lead to a dynfunctional relationship that lasts a lifetime. If every family put Barb's sage advice into practice we could make families whole again. Strong, unified families build better communities and so on and so on. Thank you, Barb, for giving your granddaughters and all the rest of us an enlightened blueprint for success!

Sandra said...

You were as brilliant as I knew you'd be, Barb. Your advice should be encased in gold and handed out like flyers to everyone in the world.

Bouncin' Barb said...

Shady...Why thank you very much. That is quite a compliment. Because my family is so far apart and not very tight and loving, I don't want my girls to have to go through that. Family should be first, foremost and loving. Again, I thank you for that immense compliment.

Sandra...Thank you sweet lady. It's so simple and yet so difficult for the world to follow. Why?

Facing50Blog.com said...

What a truly excellent post and some of the best advice I have heard. You are a lady who can express herself wonderfully in words.As the youth of today say while bouncing each others knuckles 'Respect!' Love reading your posts Bouncin' Barb. Thanks Thisisme for letting her loose on your blog you couldn't have a better guest.
Carol

Bouncin' Barb said...

50...Wow! That is what I call a compliment! Thank you very much...

Jax said...

This was lovely advice. I lost both of my grandmothers at a very young age so thanks BB for giving me a glimpse of the advice I have missed. Your granddaughters are very lucky to have you around and I do hope they realize that.

Bouncin' Barb said...

Jax...Thank you for that. They are 8 and 9 and they do know that Grandma loves them very very much even though she lives in SC and they are in CT. They are very special to me.

Teresa - in the Middle Side of Life said...

great guest post! glad you got to visit with This. this is great advice for granddaughters - or grandsons. I'm glad to report that my step-granddaughters know how much i love them, just like Isaiah knows how much I love him. The others are too young to "know" anything yet, but they will.

Jumble Mash said...

It comes as no surprise that Barb was a wonderful guest! Love the advice, especially the humor part. It would be a sad world if we couldn't laugh about things.

Susan said...

Bouncin' Barb and Thisisme-what a great post. It's so wonderful to see co-posting, although I don't know how you did it. And Barb, I don't think you left out a thing on your advice to your granddaughters. Most times, grandparenthood is just an extension of parenthood. I'm glad I was able to see this.

mskanorado said...

Thisisme, I found you through vintch! Your blog is lovely!! I look forward to reading your posts and learning more about you!!

BouncinBarb- this is a fabulous post! What great advice! I plan to bounce on over to your blog very soon!!

Kelly~ Wave of Life Surf Studio said...

Great advice, Barb!

Krissy said...

Awwww, that was a great post as usual, Barb! You are such a wise woman, even when you are bouncin'. :)

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Belle said...

Excellent advice, Barb. I'm sure your granddaughters love and appreciate you. You are a special gift to them, as my grandmother was to me.

Thisisme said...

mskanorado - welcome to my blog, and I hope you will come again.

Olive Cooper said...

Well said Barb. Great guest post♥

Bouncin' Barb said...

Teresa...THANK YOU. Grandma's are special no matter what!

JM...Thank you. You are a real sweetie! Chief Dad did good!

Susan...Nice to meet you. My son would tell you I treat his kids better than I did him and he's probably right. You get to devote more quality time being a Grandma than you do being a mom I think. That's only my opinion. It is a joy like no other!

Mskanorado...Glad you found This and then me!! You won't be sorry you found This. She is a gem of a lady. Will look for you over at my place.

Kelly...Thanks so much.

Krissy...You are a doll. Thanks.

Belle...And mine to me! Thanks.

Bouncin' Barb said...

Olive...Thank you so much. Really enjoying meeting new people through this blog.

caterpillar said...

What a great post....truly, a great grandmom!

Bouncin' Barb said...

Caterpillar...I try!

Silver said...

Mmmm.. i smell it too. I'm visiting UK this Fall. Maybe i'll go check out what she was cooking! ;D

Smiles,
Silver
Reflections

Mynx said...

I was totally certain I had commented here but I will try again.
Fabulous post Barb, hope you popped a copy of this advice in the darling girls scrapbook for them to read in years to come.

Hugs

hed said...

I love this! Barb, you should seriously make them a letter and give it to them when they hit 13 or something...this is just spot on.

Thanks for the guest post!

hed

Bouncin' Barb said...

Silver...I'm sure she would love it! Thanks for stopping.

Mynx...I'm saving that for another scrapbook! But definitely. Hugs.

Hed...I will definitely do that and who knows what else.

colenic said...

Lovely post....and the advice had me with tears in my eyes because it is so true...this is one of those posts that you could print out and look at every single day...very valuable lessons that we all need to remember and should be instilled in young ones very early. your granddaughters must be very proud of you- I hope you know how truly special you are...
This- what a great topic for a guest post. you definitely picked something that showcases Barb's writing talent and her compassion.
hugs to you both!

Thisisme said...

Col - thank you. Barb certainly did me proud, didn't she?!

Bouncin' Barb said...

Nic...What more can I say. That is a comment worth remembering always. Thank you for recognizing the importance of it. Hugs.

This...I've had a wonderful visit. Thank you for your sweet hospitality. I've enjoyed myself immensely. Someday!!

TinaM said...

Great question, and Great advise! I hope those grand kids know how lucky they are :)